An old adage says that “There is always room for improvement” and it encompasses not just to people that we commonly see who are doing most of the mistakes in life or those who have bad behavior and attitude toward others. It is best to make a self-assessment or self-evaluation in all aspects of your life. This is called self-improvement, which entails not just the attitude of the individual, but it also includes the intellectual, emotional, economical, and psychological aspect of a person. There are various tools that would serve as a channel to recognize them and admit that you have to change things. Affirmatively, there is nothing permanent in this world but change. It connotes positive transformation on yourself and not just because people see you their way and you want to please them. Remember, it’s all about you and not just what others think about you because when you think that way, you would just go back in the same pace and you will never change a bit. Here are the things that would best help you as you start to improve yourself and how you would be consistent in achieving it and not just beginning with it.
There are many people in history who have reached self-awakening and realization because they have thought about everything just like Mahatma Gandhi. This is an important aspect in everyone’s life. This should be the turning point. This is the time where you start recognizing that you have done wrong and made wrong decisions in the past. It is wise that you do it far from your comfort zone. Go in a faraway place to avoid further confusion and creating unnecessary clouds in your mind.
9. Write THEM NOW
Through meditation, your mind will be clearer. You will get to know all the sins and mistakes that you have committed. Get a notebook. Write everything, not just the negative things that you have made, whether if it has something to do with your attitude, the way you handle the financial aspects, relationship with your family, and even your commitment towards your work or school. You do not need to go in detail but you have to write the things that creates problem to you personally, which affects other people.
8. Identify the Easiest Going to the Toughest
The next thing that you have to do is to identify the smallest problems up to the biggest dilemmas about yourself. If it is possible, you could rank them from one to ten or if you have 20 on your list, at least focus on the first ten then work from the least going to the toughest.
7. Make a to-do-list
This is the detailed part. This is where the “how” comes in. For example, if the least thing that you have in your list is your patience then what kind of situation that you feel that you are being provoked to react and do things which are not appropriate? The next thing that you can do using your “to-do” list is to write down your antidotes. For example, I would sing a happy song if I feel I am pissed wherein from that, you could write down happy songs that you can memorize and sing when annoying situations come in. The rest of the “to do” list would follow in each of your list.
6. Set the date
Any goal is achievable if you know when you would do it. You do not just think about it and say you will do it but you have to be clearer if it is today, tomorrow, or next year. This is associated with #7 goals because it has complete details of how you would do it.
5. DO it now
Most of the people, whenever before the New Year comes in, individuals would have a New Year’s resolution list and when the end of the year has come, you would hear the same old story, old problems, and same complaints that they have about themselves. Was it done? Did they start correcting it? The answer is no. Real results come when action is seen.
This is the important follow-up that you can do for yourself. You have to evaluate yourself honestly, if you have improved or not. Pick up your notebook and your to-do list and grade yourself if you were able to accomplish what you have written on your commotion list. If not, you may ask yourself “What have I done wrong? What have I lacked?” Once you realized what you have missed something then repeat numbers 9 to 5 again and you will see if you are heading to your goal.
3. Ask Feedback from Others
Of course, there are things that you could not just observe yourself. You may ask informally your friends during casual talks about yourself. It’s wise that you start with your family since they would be the ones who could tell you straightly as to what kind of person you are. Include what you have gotten as you do your re-evaluation. Also, ask your closest friends and even employers if you are working, if one of the areas that you are working is work related.
2. Be Consistent
This is the most important step that people overlook. They would just start great on something but when they feel that they are accustomed to it, consistency decreases and later on, the old habit goes back to life and nothing has changed. Consistency requires patience, time, and effort. You cannot do it in a week or a month. In fact, it takes your lifetime to make sure that you are changing. It does not mean that you have to be perfect. It means that you want to be a better person not just for yourself but also for others.
1. Do Not Procrastinate
At the end of the day, it is you who would decide. You should not weigh that you cannot do it now because your situation is very much complicated. For example, you are not good in handling your finances and you tend to spend too much. Would you change that when the time comes that you cannot work anymore and you are too old to be employed? Procrastination is the primary hindrance to everyone in achieving self-improvement. It is not to be done tomorrow. It should happen today. Here